Definition of Shame
Shame is that feeling that manifests itself with the disturbance of the mind as a result of the commission of some serious offense, for the performance of some humiliating and dishonorable action , whether own or others, or simply because of shyness that someone suffers as a characteristic of His way of being.
Feeling that embarrasses someone for having committed a serious offense, for shyness ...
When feeling ashamed, it is usually associated with self-esteem , since it reduces it, and places the person suffering from it in a state of inferiority; the self is undermined and then it prevents the person from acting normally and fluently.
The shame usually presents many physical signs in the one who is feeling it and then they allow us to recognize it in the other, such is the case of the turning on the color of the face, turning to a red color and evidencing the mentioned feeling of the person who suffers, gestures such as ducking your head or covering your face; tremors, palpitations, among others.
For example, in a meeting everyone insists that Laura mentions a few words, while, as she is very shy, such a situation will trigger Laura's latent shame to whom suddenly, before the applause to encourage her to speak, cheeks will be put red " The blush on his face was a clear sign of the shame he felt ."
Normally the shame is felt after having committed some dishonorable or indecent action, for example having insulted someone who did not deserve it, having incurred in any wrongful act or having gotten into some sensitive issue, among others.
A way out of positive behavior changes
When someone feels embarrassed as a result of some of these behaviors mentioned above, they have a positive ending or correlate given that when they express that feeling, the person will be recognizing that they made a mistake, that is, they understand that they were wrong with what they did, the feeling shame is just the proof of it, and immediately it is possible and sure that the person assumes a new behavior, obviously positive, and then, that person will no longer incur those acts again.
Association with fear and shyness
On the other hand, shame is a feeling that is closely linked to the fear of passing the aforementioned shame, as we mentioned in the previous example, Laura, feels ashamed to speak in public and surely the cause of it is in the deep fear that It makes you make a mistake while talking, contradict yourself, or get stuck in the middle of the speech .
Generally, shame is a very common characteristic among shy people, because those who are shy to the extreme will never want to show in public certain aspects of their personality , or failing their body. “ I am so ashamed that my legs look at me because of that I don't wear miniskirts. When he is in public his shame is unquestionable, but in private he is the most charlatan of the group . ”
Embarrassment for being mistreated or for physical imperfections
Also the shame can be the result of having suffered a bad treatment on the part of a person, that is to say, when another speaks very badly of us in front of an audience, for example it exposes intimate questions or treats us of bad person or of useless.
And there are also physical characteristics that we present to people who embarrass us and then this feeling emerges.
For example, those who stain large noses, small breasts, overweight people, among others, tend to feel ashamed of these physical imperfections and then a natural behavior is to hide or disguise them as much as possible.
On the other hand, shame may refer to that scandalous and outrageous act or event that someone stars . “ Juan is not ashamed to show up for work after everything he said about his teammates. I am so ashamed to hear her speak so badly about her father . ”
Scoundrel: individual who acts without decorum
In as much, it will be called shameless to that individual who has no decorum or whose moral does not prevent him from committing ethical mistakes. " Roberto is a scoundrel, he ruined our family and still has the tupe to knock on our door ."
Shame on others: one that someone feels for what someone else does
And the embarrassment of others is that shame that an individual feels as if it were their own but that actually feels it for something someone else has said or feels.
"I felt ashamed of others when the deputy caught in fraganti stealing the state's silver adduced his innocence."